The One
Some of the men that I have encountered since my divorce have been so desperately looking for a wife, some a second wife, that I think that they be missing an important point.
I am in a place right now where I am making a concerted effort to put God first in all aspects of life. Not many people really know what that means. I wish that I could in some way let others know what it really means, and I wish that I could let others know that when one does put God first, all other things fall into place.
I think that the men that I have aforementioned, although they talk the God talk, have not really put God first in their lives. Instead, finding a wife, or maybe even something else, is really number one.
I am here to tell such men, and anyone else for that matter (Yes, ladies, it goes the same in reverse), that when you put God first, He will put that woman right in front of your face. He will even smack you a few times to make sure that you realize that it is her.
Since some men are not really putting God first, they run into a woman, sometimes me, and think “She’s the one.” However, I am still just getting off this marriage/divorce train. I have not even picked up my bags from baggage claim yet. Remarrying is the last thing on my mind. I am not the one, at least not right now, and maybe not ever. I digress.
In reality, it is not a problem for a man to think, feel, or even be convinced that I am “the one,” but, fellas, you have to realize that while you are convinced, the woman standing in front of you may not be so convinced about you. Here is the kicker! Wait for it…and it is not your place to convince her.
Just as God has shown you to her, which is what should have happened had you put God first, you need to wait for her to be guided in such the same way. That is, if that is even God’s plan for her.
Men, if it does not feel right, then it probably is not right. Do not try to do God’s work and force the issue. Even if you feel that you have put God first, and that He led you to the one, it may not be time, yet. Perhaps she is the one, but at a later time because one, or both, of you are not ready in God’s eyes.
People are placed into our lives for countless different reasons. Some are teachers. Some help us get through tough times. Some are bad examples so that we know who not to befriend or love romantically. Some are meant to be friends. Some are meant to challenge us. Some are meant to reveal something to us. The possibilities are endless. In the end, do not be so caught up in finding a mate that you miss the actual reason that person was sent to you.
I have already been in a position where I did not put God first and let him guide me to “the one.” I chose someone myself, and literally begged God for that person, and, well, we all know how that turned out for me. LOL
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